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This Time It’s Personal

Posted by on 9th Oct 2009 Blogging 7 comments

heart penI run an instructional blog for fiction writers.  To be honest — a risk here – I like to think of it as an instructional resource, avoiding the term “blog” altogether.  

Not that there’s anything remotely wrong with the word.  Heck, that’s precisely what happens on my site.  I blog my ass off five times a week, and am proud of it.  But that word… it sounds like something that ends up on the business end of a handkerchief after a round of coughing.

It’s just that, perhaps like some readers, I can’t quite let go of the early perception of blogging as a sort of diary-like activity, similar to what some users are doing on Twitter, ad nauseum. 

Been here, doing that, thought you’d like to know.  Well, not so much.

Going Deep

But every once in a while I use my site to go deep.  To get intensely personal.  To confess.  To show my vulnerable side, which is actually right there on my sleeve most of the time (one of the nice things about being online is that few can see our sleeves).

This happens with about one in ten posts, the others being an intense study of story architecture, thematic resonance, the six core competencies of storytelling, and other stuff so heavy on the how-to it could come from a transcript of a grad course on creative writing.

Or not.  God, I hope not. 

It’s that one in ten post that I want to share with you today.  Up close and personal.  Because it’s those one-in-ten highly personal posts that result in the best reader responses. 

I’ve given a lot of thought as to why this is so.  I think it’s because readers like to know they’re reading the words of a peer, someone who feels their fear, their pain, shares their ambitions and has something to offer on all those fronts.

There’s something magical about vulnerability. 

It’s true in relationships, and the fact that it’s true in blogging is no coincidence.  Because successful blogging is nothing if not relationship-driven.

Of course, it’s easy to get too much of a good thing — that also is true in relationships — which is why I stick to the one-in-ten ratio for posts that bleed and commiserate.  The heart and soul of blogging — especially instructional blogging — will always be content, and it shouldn’t be soggy in any way.

I had another technically-oriented post planned for today, but I shifted gears because today was my one-in-ten gushing on the page day on my site.  If you care to see a sample of how raw you go and still relate, maybe give it a go.  If not, what you’re reading now is on that path, too.

Which means, my next nine posts here had better toe the instructional line.  But for now, I’ll bask in the warm fuzziness of it all, and hope I’ve made you reflect. 

We’ll think together next time.

7 comments - Leave a reply
  • Posted by ...paul on 9th Oct 2009

    Great post Larry, thanks.

    I haven't consciously considered a ratio for personal posts as you describe, but do make them sometimes — probably more often than your one in ten. The subject matter I blog about does call for it sometimes.

    Interestingly, when I first started nearly two years ago, I made a decision that I wouldn't make the really personal posts because I wanted to avoid the 'diary-like' blog. But, as my confidence grew, some personal posts seemed right, so I added them. Now I am willing to bare my soul if it's needed for what I'm writing. I still avoid the diary-like things — even on twitter — though.

  • Posted by Kristie Lorette on 9th Oct 2009

    Hi Larry:

    I really enjoyed your article. The one thing that struck me while reading it is that when using a blog for business, one of the key points to implementing the blogging strategy is to allow your personality to shine. This allows current and potential customers to get to know the person (or the people) behind the business blog. This is but one reason to blog (and there are a myriad of reasons to blog for business purposes), but it's an important one.

    So, allow it to get slightly personal from time to time. It's good for your and it's good for your readers, which is perfect for your audience of fellow writers!

  • Posted by priyaank on 9th Oct 2009

    its a great article , i really appreciate our work , i am looking forward to read few more post of your's !!

  • Posted by Grazina on 9th Oct 2009

    I decided to follow you on Twitter, Larry, before I finished reading the post (I am going to finish reading :-)

    clicking on "follow this blogger on Twitter" takes me to a new page with a message "Sorry, that page doesn’t exist!"

    I'll find you anyway, just wanted to tell you this thingy doesn't work…

    hugs from the Land Down Under

    GA

    • Posted by Larry on 9th Oct 2009

      Paul,Kristie,and Priyaank — thanks for the kind words. Glad this resonated with you. Warm fuzzies to all. And best to you with your blogging.

      Grazina — sorry about the Twitter link, no explanation. My Twitter handle is @Storyfix if you want to try again, or there's a link on my site. Thanks much, hugs to you, too. :-)

  • Posted by Bayan azdirici on 11th Oct 2009

    Great post Larry, thanks The subject matter I blog about does call for it sometimes.

  • Posted by Fethiye on 12th Oct 2009

    Very Cool.Thank you very much.