I’m a huge fan of Dave Ramsey. For those who don’t know, Dave is a talk show host who preaches debt freedom. One of his favorite sayings is, “Debt is dumb.” Why am I talking about Dave Ramsey and debt freedom on a blog about blogging?
Well I assume that most who visit blogs like BloggingTips do so to learn how to make money online – or make more money online. One day while listening to Dave’s show, a caller asked him what his wife’s role was in helping them to achieve debt freedom, as she was a stay-at-home mom.
To paraphrase, he said she provided a stable, peaceful environment at home. This freed him to go out and make money without any emotional baggage. And, this is the crux of this post.
Making money – online or off – is easy. It really is. It’s the mental stuff that holds us back most of the time. Whether it’s a lack of confidence, a lack of organization or an “emotionally dirty” environment – it drains the number one resource you need to make money — focus.
Here I want to focus on how an “emotionally dirty” home life affects your ability to make money blogging.
The first thing you must do if you want to make money blogging is to treat it like a business, right? This means doing things like adhering to a posting schedule; using search engine optimization (SEO) techniques to drive traffic; figuring out ways to monetize this traffic; setting rates; conducting research for posts; etc.
If you do it right, blogging is exhausting, time-consuming, frustrating – and rewarding; just like any other small business.
But, how can you do all of this if you’re constantly fighting with your mate, or if your mate is just a negative person. Ever meet people who you don’t necessarily fight with, but who just never have anything positive to say; they always see the dark side? This is just as draining as arguing, for it saps your energy and robs you of your creative juices.
When your home life is not “clean”, you lose sleep, become agitated, are more tired (physically and emotionally) and lose focus. In short, all the things you need to build a successful blog – ie, energy, focus, patience, creativity – are the very things you lose in an emotionally dirty environment.
In his reply to the caller, Dave went on to say that he couldn’t quantify what his wife contributed to their quest for debt freedom in terms of an exact dollar figure. But, he said her contribution was every bit as important as his, which was actually going out and making the money.
The whole point I want to make is, if your blog or online business is not as profitable as you want it to be – it could have everything to do with your emotional environment.
Are you in a toxic relationship that drains your psychological, emotional, creative and physical resources? If so, take measures to change it as soon as possible. Many times, we don’t even realize we’re in a toxic environment/relationship, until we run across posts like this one – and it smacks us right in the face.







I never even considered this until I read this post, but now that I remember back to when I was married, I realize I'm in a much better place now (blogging-wise) than before. Even though I don't have any help looking after my 3 and 4 year old now, it's a healthier, more relaxed environment so I find I work with a lot more focus and efficiency now.
@Cassie: My mom had a saying, "I can do bad all by myself." My mom had three girls (no boys), so what she meant was, make sure your partner adds to your life — not detract from it and don't ever be afraid to be alone because you can always find joy within.
Not to sound sexist or anything guys – cuz a lot of you are friggin' fantastic — but I think when women are in an unhealthy relationship, it affects us much more b/c we are programmed to give more credence to our feelings.
So many of us — men and women — stay in unhealthy relationships out of habit, fear of being alone, expectations from others, etc. And as I said in the post, it drains you in every way.
I have a few girlfriends who are single moms and all of them say it's better to raise their kids alone — and have peace — than have the constant drama of an unhealthy relationship.
After all, you can't put a price on peace, right?
That's it exactly – I completely agree with your friends and that's the same way I feel. I didn't want to be another statistic and admit that I failed at marriage, but I had to make sure my kids were being raised in the best environment possible. As a positive side effect, I started focusing more and blogging better.
thanks for the article!
i want to create my own blog too. right now i am searching for a domain that will reflexing the subject of my forum.
just a question according to your experience. which would be better?
a blogger or a wordpress?
thanks a lot in advance
Yes, the "dirty environment" is a killer.
I remember the days when my internet marketing stuff got profitable. Then again, all people around were negative, and said that I'm gonna fail, despite them I was making money online. After a time I got sick of their complaining that I waste my life, etc., so I just left the city and moved to another where I didn't know nobody, I had no friends, relatives, etc there, and that was where I started to make the big bucks ! The things and people around us do make a big influence.
Cheers,
The Moneyac
Great subject, but I'd look even further than just your relationships. Any type of stress, whether it be caused by the people around you, ill health, financial woes, or professional pressures, can affect your blogging success.
I've been doing some research on stress management and discovered it's a vicious circle. A toxic relationship will be stressful, which in turn can cause you to be touchy, testy, and easily annoyed, which can be detrimental to any interaction with the people in your life.
I think I feel a blog post coming on!
What do you say to paid to blog websites like payperpost or sponsoredreviews?
It seems to have a lot of valuable information. Keep up the good work!
Yeah we can sell lots of digital items like laptops,digital cameras and mp3 players and lots of stuff like that.But have to keep competitive prices to attract more customers.