Comments on: Constructive Criticism – Take It On the Chin Like A Man

By: Tahira

Tahira — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 22:34:20 +0000

i think that people judge me all the time. The Constructive criticism that you are speaking is very rare. People have been giving their opinions and constructive criticism of me for a long time. I used to didn’t like me and to find out that nobody really likes me as I am is devastating. Well maybe next time I will just bite my tongue, but it still hurts. Not knowing is the criticism was beneficial or not and my tongue. lol

By: David

David — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 05:51:18 +0000

Criticism is a great way to be constructive but they way that the individual criticizes is important. Your site sucks is not very nice or civil, but on the other hand, saying I like this but you might need to work on that is a great way to give criticism.

By: Jordan Pearce

Jordan Pearce — Sat, 31 May 2008 17:16:39 +0000

I find it hard to be offended especially from people online. Maybe that’s just me. Good to bring up the subject though. Thanks.

By: griulo

griulo — Sat, 31 May 2008 16:25:46 +0000

thank you for the article. it is really important to get constructive criticism, to learn how others see us, or to learn how to get better.

By: Venkat

Venkat — Sat, 31 May 2008 13:17:39 +0000

Very interesting and useful. I agree with you, we should not become emotional. I think our ability to understand the importance of beliefs for survival will solve this problem. If my writing is in conflict with the your beliefs, you may tend to criticize me. To keep my cool, it is important for me to understand the importance of your viewpoint for your survival. No argument is good here. You can see many followers of A-listers leaving negative comments on Vic’s blog because he is questioning what they are surviving on. Human beings has the knack of changing their beliefs depending on their survival mode.

By: Janko

Janko — Sat, 31 May 2008 05:44:25 +0000

What about rating stars? That is also another way of criticizm, but I am not sure it’s very useful. It is much easier to rate an article then to add a comment. But, unlike comments, it tells me nothing about why one likes or dislikes something. I have that functionality on my blog, but I’m not convinced it has a purpose. What is your opinion?

By: diy help

diy help — Sat, 31 May 2008 05:09:43 +0000

Nice article. I agree tht criticism is good and it’ll only be useful when the author themselves know how to take it and then use it in good way. But thr are still other ppl tht purposely trying to make ppl look bad or they jz have fun in doing it so don’t be too overreact with it. Thnx for the article

By: Monika Mundell

Monika Mundell — Sat, 31 May 2008 04:33:55 +0000

@ Janko: That is correct. We have to stop worrying about the others and concentrate more on our own abilities to perceive things and whether we are moving in the right or wrong direction.

Believe me, the moment you stop worrying what others think, you will be stronger in terms of taking criticism on the chin. Like you said, it isn’t easy and takes some trust in yourself but once you do it you won’t want to go back.

@ Reverse Mergers: You are welcome. I know exactly what you mean. Like you, it took me a long while to learn this myself but now I’m good.

@ Guillermo: You are certainly right with what you are saying. I suspect the how is also the difference between downright abuse and constructive criticism and that is where the fine line is.

Some bloggers do abuse this massively. But as far as I’m concerned don’t worry about them.

By: Guillermo

Guillermo — Sat, 31 May 2008 00:36:09 +0000

Well… the problem is not the “what” Itś how… You can take it as a man, but many times the way those critics are written can pass that fine line between the blogger and the person… But who knows. May be you have to learn to deal with that also.

By: Reverse Mergers

Reverse Mergers — Fri, 30 May 2008 21:52:29 +0000

Thank you for the article. For a very long time I’ve also felt pretty much offended when get criticized, but fortunately I get used to it and now I can make the difference between constructive criticism and between abusing.

By: Janko

Janko — Fri, 30 May 2008 20:04:28 +0000

Very good article. I know you are right about everything. Still, I feel uncomfortable when I get criticized. But it is not about what others think, but rather about accepting your own mistakes. It is very hard! Eventually I realize that rational approach is to try learn from it. And that’s the only thing that helps.